What value are dreams? How much weight should they hold? Normally, I love the adventures I go on, and the places and people and see in them. Not so much when they're nightmares, but the truly disturbing ones, though few and far, still make me question a lot. Sometimes, people die in my dreams. Sometimes, I'm silenced (boy is not being able to scream scary). Last night, it was different. It was more of a 'what if' dream. A guy that has never been more than an interest to me asked me out in the dream, and even though my world seemed the same (dating a wonderful guy), I considered it. and then went for it. It was getting messy in the dream when I woke up, and since then, I've felt bad & confused. I wonder if maybe I'm not being honest and want more of life or if I'm being ridiculous even thinking that's possible. I set high standards and don't want to settle. Reality has to be part of the equation as well.

I have to say though, men, that if you're shy or scared and keep to yourself, you may miss your chance with a great woman. I know I for one have been grateful when asked out. At least then she knows you're interested, and not just thinking 'I'll give her a chance.' We want to be pursued and wooed. We also want to be friends and get to know who you are and what you like aside from the physical and/or romantic angle.