this could be it- that common ground I was looking for!    I tend to look for solutions to even imagined or not-yet-realized problems.  It may be behind-the-scenes.  I don't tend to tackle problems proactively unless it's further removed from personal relationships (like I'm redesigning my room & wrapping gifts at work for our December staff meeting).  When a relational issue does cross the significant importance threshold (what qualifies is another story), I can't let it rest.  The whole, "We need to talk" scenario makes me want to drop everything and deal with it, otherwise it's one of those unresolved incessant bugs that keeps gnawing at me until the conversation comes.

lol lol lol (this is me uncontrollably laughing or at minimum overflowingly happy)
It is good to network.  It's nice being able to go up to someone to ask about something very specific, such as the ins and outs of buying wine, and know they know what they're talking about.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and today it reached 72 when I was out during lunch.  There will be a family with 3 boys blending with 4 young women in our gathering tomorrow.