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laughter prevents screaming

09.05.04 (7:00 am) [edit]

sometimes it does.
I often laugh when I'm nervous or very upset. I am not a loud person, but I can glare or say some mean stuff. Laughing gives me a little time to cope w/ it and reconsider the right response. Sometimes that means I don't say what I really think or feel, but I figure it's easier on the other person then, and on me. Who wants to be vulnerable? I'm trying to be more, but I'll take any encouragement I can get.
Another way that laughter can prevent screaming is in annoying situations. Let's say you're sleeping in a dorm, and you wake up at 2 a.m. to loud neighbors. Some of the voices are unfamiliar, so you can assume there are guests. They are laughing/giggling a ton. You're crabby and want to sleep, or more than that, scream (perhaps at them). I didn't. In this case, I didn't laugh, they did, but if I would've said anything, that'd probably make them sad/mad, and the only way I couldn't hear them was if they were whispering (and then, maybe they'd still laugh and keep me up). Especially w/ having guets over, I wanted to give them a break. Enjoy life, enjoy the time they have together! If it happens regularly or when no guests are there, I'll sure do something about it. At least I didn't knock on the wall like I wanted to. For some reason, words don't see important to me when I'm half-awake. I prefer light-hearted laughing while skipping down the street w/ Aaron to the laughter I described in this blog, but I'll take what I can get.

posted by: Aro (reply)
post date: 09.05.04 (6:52 am)

Imagine if you lived next door to a family of clowns!!

When I have been awakened by laughter or loud people usually I will go tell them nicely that I´m trying to sleep and they are understanding. When people are truly laughing because they are happy, not because they are evil, usually they don´t want others to be crying or screaming.

posted by: cb (reply)
post date: 09.05.04 (10:27 am)

Ah, the joys of living in Phillipps with paper thin walls. Thank God I don't have to live there anymore.

posted by: learning to be assertive (reply)
post date: 09.16.04 (10:34 am)

It is nice that you want to consider other people's feelings and let them giggle and laugh. But give them a chance to consider your feelings! When you take the initiative and are honest with people the results are not always happy, but being upfront and expressing your needs keeps you from getting hurt, annoyed or feeling negative about something. Your needs and feelings are very important, Erin. Don't ignore your needs/feelings just because it is you!

posted by: SparklingSnow (reply)
post date: 09.16.04 (5:40 pm)

Reply to: learning
thanks!! I need to be reminded of that often. I've got some great, supportive people who are encouraging me to do so- it's so hard to break some habits, though!
I still tell certain things to certain people- what I feel comfortable with, or what they respond the best to- but I'm a whole person, so I should I just be one thing to someone?? (I am also trying to be careful in how I say things, so that I don't just manipulate a response out of someone)
thanks, again!